Three of Swords, Stairs of Gold Tarot

If it feels like others aren't 'honoring our needs' - how are we ourselves diminishing or not honoring our needs?

It's natural that shadows are triggered when we're taking another step up the staircase of life.
When we're having the courage to follow our hearts.
Outside forces 'messing with us', 'treating us badly', 'hurting us'.
Testing us...?
Or even...helping us?!
Just when we're 'open and ripe' for it.

Any 'disruption' is an opportunity to pause.
An invitation to go within.
Into the hurt.
To hold it and heal it - NOW.
Or it wouldn't have made itself known, now, like this.
#TrustTheProcess

Pause, to distance ourselves from the situation and re-examine our attitudes - as it seems to hurt us, greatly (swords - thoughts).

I read words such as "irascibility" and "separation, breaking-off".

Who is separating or breaking-off from what?
It's so easy to project our "contempt" outwards when we 'feel bad' or 'wrongly treated'.
When (in 'reality') it's a matter of having put the responsibility for our happiness, or our sense of safety and freedom in others' hands? Consciously or unconsciously we harbor 'expectations' or have 'strings attached'.
When we do this it pains us when others don't 'act as we expect', or 'hope' for, or when others don't 'read into or fulfil our needs'.

Bad news: we're adults now!

1.
The hurt is IN us, let's deal with it there!

Let's not be the hurt person who hurt others!
#ReturnNonloveWithLove
#growth 

No one can hurt or take our essence - we can be/get separated from it, but not because of something on the outside, only by choice. 

2.
How can we better take responsibility of our own needs?
How are we - or have we - (learned to) let ourselves down?
#compassion #gentleness #forgivness

Which ARE our true needs?!
#GeneKeys

#StairsOfGoldTarot