Ten of Cups, Visconti-Sforza Tarot

Deciding what's important for US when it comes to family dynamics, or close relationships in general - the theme of 'important choices' continues.

Not letting tradition or societal norms dictate what we 'ought to do' or should 'endure', with whom.
We can actually choose who we call family, and who we choose to be close to.
#SoulFamily #FractalLine

And we're allowed to choose how we interact with our so called 'blood relatives'.
There might come uncomfortable consequences and emotional reactions (from others and within ourselves) based on these choices, if they don't 'match (outspoken or concealed) expectations' - but hey, it's just not our task to 'live up to the expectations of others'.

Expectations.
Fertile soil for all sorts of problems.
At least if they are not based on mutual consent.
Which they far to seldom are.

Expectations are primarily based on our own experiences, perceptions, perspectives, wishes and wants - and often colored heavily by our upbringing and society in general of course.
Having expectations on others based on these things, and not in open agreement with said persons, is again: fertile soil for conflict. Or "disharmony" at least. Bitterness.
The driving energy behind it is #control (fear), not #freedom

Why entertain this, and why play along with others entertaining this?
It's worth a pause or two, and to do some reflection on 'where we stand in this', and make some active aware choices.

If we're in the middle of eradicating this kind of control based expectations in our own system it might be of value to limit our interaction with people who still entertain this 'relationship style' - friend or foe.
It might 'hurt them', but that's what's 'happens to you' if you live a life filled with unspoken or unconscious expectations on others.

Authenticity before all.

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