Stealth + Four of Swords, She Whispers Her Truth + Decameron
Why does silence gnaw at us so?
Lack of appreciation, attention or recognition, or - the 'right' recognition, as the 'wrong' one bothers us too ,:)
Maybe/probably we read the silence as judgement. That we've done something wrong, that we're not good enough, not worthy attention, foolish for thinking or hoping that anyone really care what we do or think...
#TraumaResponse
"I do not need to receive validation for everything I do"
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"Pause for reflection"
Yes, let's pause and contemplate this!
Intellectually (by now) we know it's not about 'external validation', but emotionally - there's reaction. And we (apparently) 'still believe it' - the emotion. Or rather: the story we have attached to it.
It so easily becomes a 'downward spiral'.
Were we unconsciously say or do more things to 'end the silence' or 'get the attention'. Or at least in hope for it - we tell ourselves that we say or do something innocently, but it is with this 'hope' attached. A yearning, a longing - an expectation.
Maybe it's no longer that explicit in the action, but it's still there. In the intention. Choosing not purely from our heart and gut, but from that place of need. Which always have expectation attached to it - whether we care to see or admit it or not.
And with expectation comes fertile soil for disappointment!
(I have #line6 in my #GeneKeys #AttractionSphere - innocence/disappointment)
We can tell or try to convince ourselves that we don't care, but part of us (obviously) do #IFS
How the hell do we 'make this go away'?!
By pausing - by acknowledgement!
#AllowAcceptEmbrace
Again and again :)
Giving ourselves and our emotions attention, rather than the story about them!
The more we do this, the less the need for validation, which the card talks about!
We've done nothing wrong - now let's be adults and take responsibility for our emotions (rather than get lost in what our programming thinks 'caused' it)!
#Growth #EmotionalResponsibility
#SheWhispersTheTruth
#DecameronTarot