Queen of Wands + The Lovers, Ellis decK + Meraki

Two (reversed) Queen of Wands YD and one more but upright today!!
Together with The Lovers reversed.

YD the focus was on the fact that we've really come to know our own personal truth and belief system, and I went on to write about how it's important that we now take consistent small certain actions to 'cement' those beliefs.
Not making too big steps and gestures, as patterns are likely to catch us off guard now in the beginning. And even try to 'sabotage' so to speak. Things will magically trigger our most vulnerable spots - and even spots we didn't know we had!

And what will trigger it the most?
Relationships of course!!

I see the upright queen as an invitation to do what I just wrote about. "Act on it". Passionately and compassionately act on our 'newfound truths' about who we want to be and what we want to create. Especially in regards to relationships and 'values'.
Extend this idea about 'finding our own truth' into our relationships.
Which is mostly or initially an inside job - not and outside one (reversed).

Just like we've went deep inside to find out who we want to be, our truths and our beliefs, it's the same thing in relating. It's less about the other than it is about us!
Less about 'getting results' or 'what we want', and more about acting and being in alignment with all mentioned above.
Say/write what we feel we must say to stay true to ourself. Do what we must do to stay true to ourself.
'No matter what others think' - the 'other' as well as otherS.

It's so important that we don't act or speak to BE liked, but to act and speak so we LIKE OURSELVES and NOT deviate from our truth! Even the slightest.
But not in a 'masculine forceful way', but in this soft feminine nurturing way.
Small steps, so our system can 'adjust as we go'.
To our new courage and vulnerability.
To this new way of being - which will feel uncomfortable in the beginning.
To the totally new experiences and relationships attracted because of our shift.

It's perfectly fine and even necessary to compromise now and then - but never on our core truths.
As this is something we probably have done for the most part of our life - as we haven't even known what our core truths are - it's important to take things slow, to assure we don't fall into old patterns of pleasing, compromise or 'making ourselves small' :)

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