King of Pent's + Two of Cups, Insight + Kingdom Within

Putting in the effort to give valuable support and points of Insight to a friend in heartfelt relationship matters.

I did precisely this yesterday evening! And it seems like I did a decent job ,:)

Even though it felt like "I gave more than I got" - which was in yesterday's cards, remember?
The cards YD was about service, about 'carrying the burden of perspective' - or of "judge and jury". The sense of 'having the power to change the story', that our words really matter and "have weight" or - consequences.
It's quite the responsibility, to NOT use our words or 'keen Insight' for our own desires only, but for - in this case - the greatest good of the other. Even if it pains us in some way in the moment.

To not use our Insight or words to try and prevent feeling pain or getting triggered. Maybe even having the courage to trigger triggers, and say things or ask questions to which we KNOW the answers will be painful to us.
Like in dealing with a dear friend being in or continuing a friendship/relationship that 'doesn't sit with us" in some way shape or form. To not let our 'judgment' color our support to our friend. To remain open and "benevolent" (like the resourceful king) despite eventual pain in raises in us, because we "wish things were different".
To 'endure the pain' of seeing and feeling into the core of our friend, and sensing how he - in our perception - somehow 'goes against it'.
To be able to see pass this - our own view that is.
Trust that our friends own system knows best what it has to experience and go through.

Furthermore, to refrain from saying how we see things, and certainly from what our friend should do!
Really hold back any kind of trying to shape how things 'ought to develop or proceed'.
And instead just "point our friend inwards". Say things to 'remind our friend who they are'. Point them back to their own heart and core, where all the true answers lay!
And, leave it to them to do what they want with our words.
Not judge them for how they continue.
And again, trust that their system knows better what it has to go through than we do!
Which might be to discard our 'advice' totally!

It's about "doing the responsible thing", and plant seeds wherever it's possible!
Some will be taken care of and grow, some will not.
Not our business :)

And/or - guiding ourselves through a "destabilizing relationship encounter" :)

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